Family Relations

I look at the people I am related to and realized that it is truly a blessing to have an extended family. Nothing is more special than looking at my children as they hug my great aunts and uncles. They have one great-grandfather alive but unfortunately he no longer recognizes us.

My children run and hug their great aunt and uncle. Our family may not all live in one place but that extended family love runs strong. With the loss of any family member, floods of love come via telephone or in-person extending hope and best wishes for the sad.

Our family loves a party too. They like to cook-up and bake tarts! My kids love that too. It brings a togetherness that is necessary to keep the family ties strong.

I hope that we can get a reunion soon!

Busy____****....****____Business

I'm busy in my business.
My business is busy.
Mind you your business busy-body.
Busy yourself with your business.

The above sentences are all correct. Think about how many times we use these words in so many different contexts but still in the same sentences. Here are the definitions as quoted from www.dictionary.com

BUSY
-adjective
1. actively and attentively engaged in work or a pastime: busy with her work.
2. not at leisure; otherwise engaged: He couldn't see any visitors because he was busy.
3. full of or characterized by activity: a busy life.
4. (of a telephone line) in use by a party or parties and not immediately accessible.
5. officious; meddlesome; prying.
6. ornate, disparate, or clashing in design or colors; cluttered with small, unharmonious details; fussy: The rug is too busy for this room.


–verb (used with object) 7. to keep occupied; make or keep busy: In summer, he busied himself keeping the lawn in order.


BUSINESS
–noun
1. an occupation, profession, or trade: His business is poultry farming.
2. the purchase and sale of goods in an attempt to make a profit.
3. a person, partnership, or corporation engaged in commerce, manufacturing, or a service; profit-seeking enterprise or concern.
4. volume of trade; patronage: Most of the store's business comes from local families.
5. a building or site where commercial work is carried on, as a factory, store, or office; place of work: His business is on the corner of Broadway and Elm Street.
6. that with which a person is principally and seriously concerned: Words are a writer's business.
7. something with which a person is rightfully concerned: What they are doing is none of my business.
8. affair; project: We were exasperated by the whole business.
9. an assignment or task; chore: It's your business to wash the dishes now.
10. Also called piece of business, stage business. Theater. a movement or gesture, esp. a minor one, used by an actor to give expressiveness, drama, detail, etc., to a scene or to help portray a character.
11. excrement: used as a euphemism.
–adjective
12. of, noting, or pertaining to business, its organization, or its procedures.
13. containing, suitable for, or welcoming business or commerce: New York is a good business town.
—Idioms
14. business is business, profit has precedence over personal considerations: He is reluctant to fire his friend, but business is business.
15. do one's business, (usually of an animal or child) to defecate or urinate: housebreaking a puppy to do his business outdoors.
16. get down to business, to apply oneself to serious matters; concentrate on work: They finally got down to business and signed the contract.
17. give someone the business, Informal.
a. to make difficulties for someone; treat harshly: Instead of a straight answer they give him the business with a needless run-around.
b. to scold severely; give a tongue-lashing to: The passengers will give the bus driver the business if he keeps driving so recklessly.
18. have no business, to have no right: You have no business coming into this house.
19. mean business, to propose to take action or be serious in intent; be in earnest: By the fire in his eye we knew that he meant business.
20. mind one's own business, to refrain from meddling in the affairs of others: When he inquired about the noise coming from the neighbor's apartment, he was told to mind his own business.

What have you wished for lately?

Peace?
Joy?
Love?
Children?
Riches?

Everyone is not meant to be rich - with money. Some of us have to be poor so that the rich man can feel that earthly riches make him the better person.

Poor rich man - I like the sound of that. A good rich man behaves like Oprah, TI, Ludacris etc and gives! I hope that they are not giving just because it is a tax write-off.

Any group that I am a part of has to be willing to give - time or funds towards worthy causes. I am an advocate for the poor, beaten, homeless and helpless. In other words - if you don't want to help people - then don't try tobe my friend. I'll shoo you away like a bad cat who steals out of the pot.

However, in spite of my attack on people who don't like to give - I extend bst holiday wishes and greetings to all.

One Love

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Check yourself before you wreck yourself and be wise and condomise!

HIV/AIDS - the not so new epidemic is on the rise in the Virgin Islands. The scary thing is that many people don't know their status. Do you know yours? Arrange to be tested. Even if you have to pay for the test, isn't it worth it?

I was tested earlier this year and am happy to say that I am NEGATIVE. Does this mean that I won't be tested again? You must be mad - of course I will be tested again. I encourage EVERYONE to get tested. It is better to know your status so that if you are positive, you can get the appropiate treatment.

Young men and young women - be wise and condomise! If you are not with one steady partner - stop and evaluate your lifestyle. Stay with one partner or just be abstinent.




Check yourself before you wreck yourself and be wise and condomise!

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Life begets reciprocity!

Lord, Speak to me. Guide and take me forward to where you need me to be - not in size but in where I should as be a productive member of society who inspires others.

I wish to live a good life and to be prosperous in what I do and I extend these hopes and thoughts to all. That is what life is supposed to be about. It is a circle. My good deed may not return immediately back to me - but it will return in one form or the other. Life begets reciprocity!

We must be good to each other and must love one another. It's the only way that we can enjoy peace and exude happiness.

One Love

Police, police the police.

Do you remember the written test you passed in order to get your Driver's Licence? Do you remember the manual you studied to be able to take that test and pass it?

If you remember, then why are you not obeying the traffic laws? Can you cross over a SOLID WHITE LINE? Can you cross over a DOUBLE YELLOW LINE? How many car lengths are we supposed to drive behind each other? What is the difference between a STOP and a YIELD sign?

I am sure you remember these answers so we should all be better drivers. You may say that the police are there to police the roads. However, I say that we need to police our sevles and let the police handle these criminals who rob us by daylight.

Of course, the police do NOT carry guns on regular patrol so they also have to hide when the robberman passes by. Afterall, who REALLY wants to get shot. I don't.

I always say that if the people don't obey basic traffic laws, then of course they will write bad checks, steal and become nuisances. Spare the rod - spoil the child applies here. Let them get away with the simple crimes and for sure they will escalate into more serious crimes.

The police seem to be crying out for help - so who will help them? And I don't mean that we need to call the Crime Hotline - we NEED to show the Government of the day that it is imperative to update the laws so that the police can actual POLICE and not play pretend with our lives.

Liming Hard

RIBBON was sick. RIBBON was NOT stressed though. I'm just taking it easy as it comes. Everyone's having parties - Birthday, Kwanzaa, Baby Showers and even hard liming.

I keeping it cool this holiday - I'll try to attend all of the above - except the hard liming because I just don't do that anymore. I'm a parent. Hard liming consists of buying hard limes and squeeezing to season fish or to make 'limeade'. I'd be better off going rock climbing than the hard lime. I'd probably fall asleep standing up in the club. Wel....

Maybe I wouldn't, I can 'cut a rug' and 'boogie til the break of dawn' so I think I can lime hard.

Afterall, If I am up ay 3AM watching the Jefferson's re-runs, I obviously can lime hard.

You've just gotten your joke for the day! Laugh hard and lime hard.

My blog really helps me craft my writing skills. I love speaking with people and getting their feedback on their particular skill. I wonder what I would ask myself in an interview...

So why do you write poetry?
How do you manage with two small children?
You look like you enjoy yourself and love having fun - a law firm job - why?
How do you feel about the economic situation in the BVI, USVI and world at large?

People seem to react well with my interview questions - so I hope that I am doing a good job. I feel that it is important to showcase the talents of our people. I will always say that the biblical parable in relation to 'TALENTS' referred to our literal talents. When persons in the community are doing well - we need to highlight those accomplishments.

Why do we wait until someone dies to praise them or when they get into trouble to scold them?

I say mighty BIG UP to Shine-I, Maccabee, Church Boyz, Squad Up, CB4Lyfe as performers. Mad SHOUT OUT to the Callaloo Poets. To all the local businesses, J&D's Catering, KT Productions, Island Entertainment Production, VI Lander Films, Sweet Things, Mellow Moods and I can go on an on an on - MUCH LOVE.

Necessary Roughness

I am starting to become ROUGH. It's not nice, but it is NECESSARY ROUGHNESS. Do you want to be in an organization that has members who may consistently be late, lazy, inconsiderate, selfish, or some or all of the above? When I say I have had enough - it is already too much. The NO or the big ROUGH usually comes when it is at the boiling point. 

I still love those guys, and I will still help them out but more so in JANUARY 2009 (God spare life). In January, I will deal with them again on a positive note. Right now - it's about ME. I have my FAMILY - they come first. It is not fair nor right for me to put them aside to suit the needs or may I say wants of group members. Some SEEM always so willing (I wonder) but are NEVER THERE at crunch time. 

Call me crazy- it's a good thing - when YOU don't have to prodder. You watch and you hear people complain and my thought is ..such disdain...and discord. It's time for a new record. I mean the noun - not the verb nor the adjective - because for me to describe how I live - an adverb will be necessary. So if they don't hear from me - I am still here standing with my nappy hair but pretending to be a hare and ...dashing away .... 

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How Do You Tell Someone You Don't Like Them?

Is there really a nice way to tell someone that you don't like them?

'I'm not sure if I really like your habits, your style or your attitude. Hell, I don't even think I like you as a person.'

'You really upset me when you talk condescendingly to me. I wish you would talk to yourself that way.'

'You're not the best in conversations...you know. You tend to run on and on and on about ....nothing.'

'You're not the best to look at. I have to talk special pills just to keep my lunch down.'

I can't honestly say that I really don't like any particular person. A person may annoy me or may not be able to speak without being a snob - but I just usually say that the person is an idiot and move on. I may talk about it after for a couple days just to vent - but then I usually try to stay away from people like that.

You know - the people who think that they can do everything better than everyone else or the people who think that their filth does not smell like...filth. I am quite tired of people who act like that. So does that make ME a person that NO ONE likes. Like I care!

ZBVI did a great piece on its daily Almanac program today about LOVING YOURSELF and one particular point was that one can not try to change herself to please others or to fit in. You just have to be YOURSELF.

I am happy with me. If you do not like me - find a new friend.

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Vote for SHINE-I and MACCABEE

I love me some Snoop Dog. He is one of my favorite artists. The flow and style bring music that will last through generations. I had to start my blog giving mad props to my boy, Snoop.

On the local tip, you need to call tonight to vote for local reggae artists, SHINE-I and MACCABEE on the ZROD Top 7 at 7 countdown. Shine-I's 'Glad' and Maccabee's 'What's Going On' are two thought provoking grooves which sing on the love that is needed in our lives, our community and our world today. If you are in the BVI, you need to be calling 494-1037 to request these songs. Also let me know if you need to book these guys for any event and I will put you in direct contact with them.

I love music and you will see that thought reiterated in my blogs. I grew up with a walkmn in my ears all the time. So if I can hear too well, forgive me. The music was good. It's still good today, but there are not that many choices like in the 90s.

All I can say is promote your local artists!

Women - Mothers ?

Many young women look at other women who are mothers and say: ‘I would not have my children attending daycare.’ ‘I would never breastfeed my child in public.’ ‘I would never have a tummy after having my baby because I would be in the gym right after the baby pops out.’ ‘I would not have children out of wedlock.’ ‘I am perfect.’ PLEASE! No one is perfect and life is not perfect. You may have your perfect life planned out and who cares? ‘I love my tummy.’ 

‘I loved breastfeeding with a blanket in public.’ ‘I love my children and their father.’ ‘I love being me – imperfect and flawed.’ So to those of you who wish to have that ‘perfect’ life, plan ahead to the fullest and get that perfect partner and perfect job and of course your big mansion on the hill.

Just as our normal parents survived, so we shall survive. I don’t mean to down on people with aspirations and goals because I have goals too. My goals are not to be rich though or to have prestige or to live a bourgeois lifestyle. I just was simple happiness and minimal stress. I hate to be bothered with things...cars, tenants etc. You may think that I am crazy for not wanting the lavish lifestyle of the rich and famous but that’s not for me. Give me some grants – let me help to educate people and make people feel appreciated. So to the ladies who are ‘perfect’, buzz off!

To the ways of the smart

I believe that I am sufficiently smart. I think most people are too. Yet, people in general tickle me. A few examples are:

1. We are all performing at an event that is to start at 7:00pm. I arrive at 7:00pm because I believe that is the smart thing to do. You arrive at 8:30pm when you think the house is full so that you can have a full audience to hear you and then laud you. Now, that's 'smart'.

2. A man visits a law office and says that he wants to divorce his wife because he is afraid of her and that she has attacked him with a machete. He did fail to mention that he kicked her first. Isn't he 'smart'?

3. A guy starts to hang around at the same places I hang out. We get to talking and he offers to clean my car and cook for me. He turns out to be such a 'good friend'. I consider him my best pal. Guy 2 meets me at the laundry, gives me his number and asks to take me out to dinner to get to know me better because he thinks the relationship can go somewhere...like marraige one day. I hook up with Guy 2 because he's smart.

There is no end to the examples that can be given and there is no moral to this story. Use your common sense and do what you think is right. After all, who likes a 'smart man' anyway?

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Callaloo Poets 'open mic' on Saturday, October 18, 2008 at Mellow Moods

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

As part of Domestic Violence Awareness month, the Callaloo Poets and the Virgin Islands Improvement Association (VIIA) host an ‘open mic’ poetry event themed ‘ALL ABOARD: STOP OPPRESSING and START DEFENDING’ on Saturday, October 18, 2008 at 7:00pm at Mellow Moods in Road Town, Tortola, The Virgin Islands. Poets, Dancers and Musicians are asked to arrive by 6:45pm for signup.

Copies of ‘V.I. Callaloo: Poems from the Caribbean’ will be on sale. For persons who have already purchased their copy and would like it signed, please walk with it to the reading.

Theme: ALL ABOARD: STOP OPPRESSING and START DEFENDING
Date: Saturday, October 18, 2008
Time: 7:00pm
Place: Mellow Moods

REAL TALK to feature Callaloo Poets on Channel 51 and CORE MAGAZINE 1st Anniversary Issue in BVI

Check out Callaloo Poets - Linette & Sowande on REAL TALK with Karia Christopher on Wednesday, May 7, 2008 at 7:30PM on Channel 51. Be sure to check it out!

Also, CORE Magazine has released its 1st Anniversary issue featuring our own Revelation, Ritical, Alton Bertie and Kamau Georges. Poetry by the Callaloo Poets is also featured in this FREE issue which has Rock City on the cover. Delve into this issue to read about Avalanche, Jam Tyme Band, CORE Fashion and much more.

No Callaloo Poets Poetry Reading in May

There will be no Poetry Reading on the third Saturday of this month - May 17. Instead, we encourage you to attend HLSCC's Talent Extravaganza at the HLSCC Auditorium on May 17, 2008 at 7:00PM. This enjoyable evening will highlight local artists displaying their various talents.

Our next reading will be on June 21, 2008 at 6:00PM at La Fantasea by the Sea in Duff's Bottom. Performers are asked to arrive for sign up at 5:45PM. The theme will be announced shortly. The July reading will follow as usual at Mellow Moods.

The POET in ME

I took a week off from writing in my blog and I ended up wiriting more poetry. So I think I need a good balance in my writing. Check this out:

My jeans tell the story of time
As we walk down the runway line
Bell-bottoms
Stone-wash
high waisted
and low rise
Pleated front
And faded
From back then to now
The fashion shows
That fashion comes
And goes
And comes back
And is unique
To each soul


I have just been playing around with words a lot more and have been able to think of topics and compose. I feel like I have grown as a writer. I guess too that since I am the one coming up with the topics, there is no pressure to write in a certain way or to focus to a certain audience.

I typically don't like to write for competitions or when asked to perform at certain events unless I have a piece or pieces already written on that theme. What I hate more is when the persons asking you to perform request that you include certain ideas or issues in the poem. Excuse me, you should have written the poem yourself then. Let my inspiration flow and work in the theme. Anything else is forced and shows in the performance.

I wrote a piece for my sister's wedding and I did not even try to rhyme - I played with a concept and it worked and I was happy with it.

Of course, I love writing happy pieces but I have a piece to write for my great aunt's funeral and it does make me sad. I plan to word it not as a 'missing you' piece but as a higlight of her accomplishments. I may share that one with you.

I didn't create this blog to share poetry. I created it to improve my writing overall. I guess the poet in me must share a piece every now and then.

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Some Choice Words

I am down to earth. What does that mean? I am short? I am live in Australia? No, No - it means that I am cool, friendly and accepting of new people and new ideas. So why term it 'down to earth?' English is really a crazy language. 

 Even to say I am 'cool' today does not mean neither in between warm and cold. It means, I am nice and helpful. 'She cool man, she will help you cause she got my back'. 'Got your back'? She took your 'back'? Then how are you standing straight? No, she will help me in what ever way I need, like a good 'hook-up'. (Holler if you hear me!) So she's going to hang me or gut me, then - hook-up? I don't think so. She knows ways to make things easier so you don't have the hassle, kind of like a facilitator. (Or is she aiding and abetting?) 

 You better check your cool, down to earth hook-up cause she may not have your back when the thing hits the fan. O man, more twisted words - this language is ridiculous. Can we speak for one day without using these terms? We are so accustomed of twisting the language and adopting phrases from other dialects and cultures that many things we say will get lost in translation. [no pun intended].

 It is most important to know how to speak professionally in an office setting versus speaking with family and friends. Read more (read my blog) and write more - not just social media writing. It will help you to maintain the balance. Persons who are supervisors and management should still type certain correspondence for themselves. 

I have been lucky to have superiors who have a command of grammar but I know persons who have 'airheads' for bosses. The airheads are the worst because they can't write nor spell. So, what's an airhead? I think that the connotation is quite clear - emptyheaded, ditsy, asea, dumb .........

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Flavor or Flava

FLAVOR FLAV is the MAN! I really like that show because simply it makes me laugh. I don't think that any of those girls actually want to know or love FLAV. They are all just looking for exposure and want to be like New York. New York's show ran for two seasons and she is probably sitting with a chunky bank account right now. 

Reality Shows are the rave right now. All ages and races are tuned in. All I see is the nasty side of human nature showing on these shows. Backbiting, fighting and cursing make the ratings go higher as the participants strive for more camera time. Anyone who sits quietly on a reality show is always sent home. 

In cases where, LOVE is the prize, one loud person always make it to the finals. I guess on American Idol, a quiet and introverted person would get the big boot. The TV networks have us stuck in reality mode as they have cancelled so many sitcoms - how will the TV actors get work? As we make way for all these budding reality stars, they are looking for more roles which are slowly becoming minimal. 

So it's Top Model, American Idol, Flavor of Love, Miss Rap Supreme and I lost track ... VHI probably has the biggest budget for reality shows. There's no more Pop-Up Video! It's a mess but it 21st century TV. Reality shows will be what we see in 3D. See the gold teeth up close.........

S H O E S ................and shoes

Shoes...where are you? 

 I wear size 6 shoes. I love shoes. 

BUT I have a problem with shoes. 

...shoe shopping specifically. 

 I have visited the many shoe stores in the BVI and have had the hardest time finding dressy silver shoes in a size 6. Please note that for size 7 and up, there is an abundance of styles to choose from. Prices start from $20. These silver shoes are for a special occasion. I would like to use them again but for $129 - I'd rather not go that far. I'll be using them until I am 40. I have made up my mind and convinced myself that metallic gray is silver and this is what I will buy. 

Hopefully, when I go for them tomorrow - they will be there. I have bought shoes and in one week, the pairs have been forwarded to Red Cross or Humane Society because I found them uncomfortable. And for $129 and after starving myself for week, I would be a crazy and hungry fool. $30 pair here I come. I will make them comfortable and convince myself that they are perfect. Who's gonna care anyway! 

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What, Hair? Wear....

A woman's hair is her crown. A black woman's hair is her glory. Yet, when you look around today, many black women are unhappy with their roots.

Why does no one like their curly/kinky hair? Straight and afro weaves are more commended and adorned. Hairdressers and braiders blow dry hair straight to make the corn rows look better. When did we give up our crowns to look like other races?

All of a sudden, my braids are not good enough for work or a wedding. Have the lye and no-lye relaxers burned black women's brain cells? I think my knots, braids, or afro look great every day. Everyone wants to live in the norms and look like Britney Spears or Tyra Banks. I don't mind standing out.

All I am saying is 'do yours' and I'll 'do mine.' If I don't fit your norms, then so what? 'Oh you know in the States, you can't get a job with your hair like that!' Have you seen my credentials and my experience? Have you seen me in an interview? As my good poet Oren said, "it's Neither Hair nor There."

So who cares about my hair? If you have to have a conversation about my hair or me, that means I am important. It doesn't take anything off of me.

Big up to the natural hair, dreads, cornrow, bongo-wearing ladies - wear your crown proudly!

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My Name is.......

My name is simple. Someone said my name sounds old and boring and it suits me.

According to http://www.thinkbabynames.com/, the meaning is "idol; a small songbird". It may not be popular now but hey, I learned to spell it quickly and I love it.

These days, we play with combinations or parents names or we make them up and that is cool. What parents should be mindful of is Elementary and High School classmates who can be cruel and twist people's names around. I am very good at ignoring idiots so they can twist away. However, we should teach children the meaning and origin of their names so that they can appreciate it and defend it.

I am BLACK DIAMOND to the bone. I did not understand the name at first but it has inspired me and I wrote a poem about my grandfather, the original BLACK DIAMOND. See VI Callaloo: Poems from the Caribbean to read it. Actually everyone in my grandfather's lineage is proud to be a BLACK DIAMOND descendant. My children will be taught to appreciate it as well.

A nickname like BLACK DIAMOND is good but to call yourself Toilet Paper or Soot or Dirt is just ridiculous. I prefer not to use a nickname. People cut my name short and then it's like they are calling my dad since my name is a derivative of my dad's. When he comes by, he is quick to correct them. GO DAD!

Check yourself - check your name - don't let anyone call you down!

Callaloo Poets & VIIA nourish the Mind, Body & Soul on April 19, 2008

Callaloo Poets & VIIA nourish the Mind, Body & Soul on April 19, 2008

April 19, 2008 is the third Saturday of the month and the Callaloo Poets and the Virgin Islands Improvement Association (VIIA) will present 'Food 4 Thought: Nourish the Mind, Body, and Soul'. This 'open mic' event starts at 7:00pm at Mellow Moods in Road Town, Tortola. Performers are asked to arrive at Mellow Moods at 6:45PM for sign-up.

Poetry Readings are held every third Saturday of the month. For more information about the Callaloo Poets and the VIIA, please visit http://www.myspace.com/vicallaloo and http://www.viimprovement.org/.

Insurance or assurance of higher premiums - Part 2

Obviously, I have a problem with auto insurance in the BVI.

I called around today to ask if a 2001 vehicle can get COMPREHENSIVE auto insurance and many offices said NO. One office said that if I have the car financed through the bank, then they can insure it comprehensive for this year ONLY. After that it will be 3rd party.

Maybe I am a little too particular, but I think this entire insurance business in the BVI needs to be investigated. The Government enacted laws to make every vehicle owner purchase auto insurance. In that case, the local companies should be able to cover ANY vehicle at comprehensive rates. Now, you might say that my car is only worth $2,500. If I get into an accident and I am found liable, the other driver gets his vehicle and expenses taken care of in FULL. I walk away with nothing. In that scenario, even with a deductible of $1,000, I can still claim $1,500 to assist with getting another vehicle.

I did some research since this insurance business seems more and more sketchy to me.

Source: Auto Insurance In-Depth
"Collision coverage usually also comes with an insurance deductible. It's the amount of money you pay toward repairs before your collision insurance kicks in. The higher the deductible you're willing to pay, the less the collision policy will cost."

"Comprehensive is very similar to collision insurance, the main difference being that comprehensive covers damage caused to your vehicle caused by any unknown party or "act of God"."
http://www.autoinsuranceindepth.com/optional-coverages.html

I was even told that the 2001 vehicle would have to be purchased from the bank so that comprehensive insurance can be purchased. Insurance companies care more about the banks than the drivers? Why should I get a car loan for $4,000? If I am to take the $4,000 from my savings to buy a car, then obviously with 3rd party insurance in an accident where I am at fault, I would be severly handicapped. Everyone does not have $4,000 sitting around to buy another car.

In light of everything above, I think the appropriate government body needs to investigate the insurance companies here. In our culture, many people purchase used vehicles. Therefore, the insurance companies need to stop worrying about the banks and look out for the people who are just starting out.

More research will be conducted and the appropiate government agency will be asked to look in to the matter.

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Watch me do me

Watch me do me....

Yea, I like that song, well at least the chorus. I am comfortable with my outer shell and inner being so I'm glad to use what God gave me to do positive things. I prefer to be a role model. I have a friend who is both a role model and a top model and she is doing fine.

Females, especially still have many setbacks and hindrances. Even as a black female, it's hard proving yourself. Men always try to put you down and run you around.

Before this starts to sound like a poem or lyrics, I'll say that my kids have made me into a new ME. I am not be the club hopping girl anymore but I am a woman on a mission to leave a legacy for my fruits. They need nuture to grow them into positive adults who make good choices.

Watch me do me

Beef vs. ?????

Do you think I beef too much about little things? I prefer to beef than just sit and take nonsense. Somebody has to speak out! Right?

Gone are the days of crying in a corner. Gone are the days of pouting. When things bother you, you should speak out - not curse. Speak with confidence and express yourself.

Sometimes it's good to listen first to the other side and basically let them trip themselves up. You can reflect back and smile quietly.

Many times, a higher authority has to called to investigate or to give their input. One must do what one's 'gotta do'.

I have no example today to share with you because I've been playing passive agressive these days. I just let certains things go and people will see where I am coming from. OR, after I ignore them for a while, they come my way. :)

It's not being mean or nasty. It's just another way of dealing with beefs. Now, I don't eat meat but I used to and yet beef was never a favorite.

So, motto for today, deal with problems as they come and try to keep a cool head and let the other side trip themselves up!

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The Bootleg Man

Bootlegging originally reffered to illegally distilling alcohol, but has recently become a term used to describe any activity that is not done correctly, properly or completely. A bootleg product is one that is not genuine like 'bootleg CDs' are not the original productions.

I sometimes say that I am the 'bootleg queen' because I love thrift shops and I always try to find the easy way out. In that case, you should call me the 'shortcut queen' but I just like using the word 'bootleg'.

Today, I met The Bootleg Man. He bought a busted lemon and fixed it.....half-way. Of course, no one wants a lemon - not even The Bootleg Man. So he is trying to sell the lemon with crazy glue on the door handles and the paint job peeling. Of course, it was no sale because other than the door handles and the paint job, the exhaust is not 100%. It maybe 81.9385758% but if it does not sound right and shift right - NO SALE.

Seriously, we need to be more aware of persons selling used vehicles. Always get a mechanic to check the vehicle out - inside and outside. This is my checklist:

1. Check the engine for leaks
2. Check the tires for wear and tear and mismatching
3. Check all shocks & struts
4. Look closely at fenders and bumpers for repairs and hits
5. Watch the sensors closely for Check Engine etc.
6. Ensure all seat belts are working
7. Check door handles for glue (lol - couldn't help that one)
8. Drive up the hill with A/C
9. Ask around about the car if you can get info
10. If the car comes from the US/Canada - check CARFAX
11. If you don't like it, leave it alone

Of course, it problem free to buy a new vehicle but if you can't afford it, a good used vehicle can be your savior.

Good Luck and watch out for The Bootleg Man.

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Why Steal

Are things really that bad that every day we steal? It does seem to be that bad because people are stealing scooters and cars - not food. There are about 10 people begging on the streets today either for hunger or for drugs. They're not stealing.

So what's wrong with the 18 year old who steals a scooter. Are you not employed? The classifieds are full of paying jobs. So what drives youn people specifically to steal. Is it Grand Theft auto that inspires them, or Ocean's Eleven or The Italian Job? Can they bridge the difference between reality and fiction?

If they are looking at Cops or Police Chases, then those are awful examples to follow since the perps ALWAYS get caught. So what is the fascination with taking other people's things?

For me, I prefer to do without or ask someone. That is what I was taught. So, are we as parents teaching our children to do without? Many say that they wish for their children to have a better life than themselves. Of course, I won't argue that but it does not mean that children are to be spolied.

We in the BVI tend to baby our children and spoil them. Many times they can't handle the harshness of life and result to stealing and embezzlement. Why is a 25 year old man being caught with his hand in the cookie jar?

Leave people things alone!

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World Poetry Day was on March 21, 2008

On March 21, 2008, the Callaloo Poets are celebrating World Poetry Day in conjunction with our UNESCO office here in The Virgin Islands. World Poetry Day was first launched in 1999 by the United Nations Educational Scientific and Cultural Organization (UNESCO) at the 30th session of the General Conference in Paris. Why poetry? Some poets say it is a way to express themselves and others may say it is a way for them to share their thoughts with others. If you are a poet, we encourage you to keep writing and to share your work. You never know who you may inspire. We, as a starting group of 18 poets, published "V.I. Callaloo: Poems from the Caribbean" in November 2006 and officially launched with the help of the Department of Culture in May 2007. 

V.I. Callaloo is a poetic 'cook-up' of poems about love, life, culture, history and social issues. It is our hope to publish more volumes of V.I. Callaloo in the future and to also include many more poets and their writings. Poetry is an artform with few limitations. You can craft your thoughts around any topic with creativity. Poets share the love of writing but use different writing styles to convey their personal messages. Some poets use rhyme or rhythm, while others use repetition of sound or imagery or personification. Others speak in the third person to grab the reader's attention. 

Writing the poem is only one aspect for poets who choose to perform at 'open mic' events or at programs. Reading the piece brings it to life and can help the audience to understand the message you are trying to convey. Poets may use music or drums to enhance their pieces. Some use audience participation such as verbal or non-verbal cues to enhance their poems. I have seen poets also use dramatization and movement to give their poems more flavor. The Callaloo Poets and the Virgin Islands Improvement Association (VIIA) hosted an 'open mic' poetry reading honoring the elders on March 15, 2008. The events are well supported with new poets stepping up to the mic at every reading. 

We continue to encourage the 'closet writers' to come out and share their work because talent is special and not meant to be hidden. Poetry Readings are held every third Saturday of the month and you can look forward to the next reading on April 19, 2008. The venue and theme will be confirmed soon. To give you a taste of our poetry, a few of the Callaloo Poets have agreed to share some pieces with you. Please enjoy and let us have your comments. For more information about the Callaloo Poets, visit http://www.myspace.com/vicallaloo and http://www.youtube.com/vicallaloo. For more information on UNESCO, call 468-3701.

TWILIGHT OF MY NEW DAWN 

The tone of your dark skin fades into the color of your emotions. 

A daughter of time, a product of promising illusions. 

Your heavy heart beats to the rhythm of life's sad song... 

And with each day that passes, a piece of you... gone. 

But as diamonds emerge from heated coals in intense pressures, 

As stones are polished by raging waters, 

So it is with you.. tho' battered and torn, 

Broken and knocked down, 

A glorious and endless light radiates from within; 

Fueled by the eternal love of your beautiful being. 

 So hope hangs high as you realize your powers... 

That river of life flowing from you to others, 

Those words of wisdom that are immortal, 

Those prayers you uttered at heaven's portals, 

That desire to rise on the wings of a new day, 

The courage to shine when all around you is grey. 

 Now, as this sunset draws on, you look beyond 

And a smile escapes as you break into song... 

"Surely this is not where I belong." 

"This is the twilight of my new dawn!" 

© Ezrena George-Barrett 

In the midst of revolution   

Hinting at obvious circumstance, 

Planning for our one big chance. 

Congregating in the street, Greetings as each meet each. 

Flowing, is the knowing, in the air. 

That here, today, we will raise our cares. 

While banners flow and drums beat harder, 

Prophets stand with ears open to the father. 

The food we eat; the air we breathe 

The lives we live our killing me! 

The lives we live kill community! 

Then in noise, silence came. 

More than just a passing rain, 

Freedom poured from heaven's hands 

Helping us to understand, 

In the midst of pain and process, 

Among us who bear these crosses, 

In the midst of revolution, 

Running, screaming, pleading 

Came our heaven sent solution! 

 © Nyah Umoja 

cultivation 

 my reach needs an extension 

 to make the connection 

in reaction to the love in existence 

 and the brilliance of a million smiles 

and reactions that produce alive passion 

that fashions inside and cultivates outside 

 lies trembling beside 

and stimulates the fireside 

 on the bright side 

 a poem compiled 

 with the happy tears I cried 

 a walk in the countryside 

 a relaxing morning ride 

 fashions my inside and 

cultivates my outside 

 © Linette Rabsatt 

Family 

Peace to the people who really love me 

Who run to hug me when others shun me 

Sweet annointings they rub upon me 

Shine on my mind like the sun above me 

They see the bad and observe the ugly 

Extend a hand and affirm the lovely 

Judge me not trust me lots do the opposite 

Involved with plots to squash all confidence 

So ominous, they argue for dominance 

Thank God for prominent followers of Solomon 

Tall monuments of genuine compliments 

Are offered to all of us to honor the marvelous 

They polish diamonds that lie inside me 

They teach me to fly and advise me wisely 

They baptize and guide, they stand beside me 

They chastise psyche's when bad guys spite me 

They are my light, my sight, my miracle 

Mother Earth's umbilical giving me minerals 

Spiritual principles mixed with political wit 

Physical fitness is critical 

I sit with angels, rhythm they grant me 

This is a lyrical tribute to family 

© Sowande 

Be Vigilant 

Be mindful of what you say 

Cautious of how you say 

Be sure to analyze why you say, 

what you say 

When you say, what you say, 

it might makes a difference 

Be cognizant where you say, 

what you say 

Swift to evaluate what you say, 

to whom you say 

Eventually, the world 

might be a better place to live 

 © Justin Hodge

What is it Worth?   

Is there value in deceit and blasphemy? 

Is there value in living disrespectfully? 

What is it worth without LOVE? 

Put away your disgust and grudge… 

Words without work is NOT enough! 

The effort put into the jealousy and malice; 

Is energy that could be better utilized in so many ways 

Put a price tag on your characteristics 

And see if it is valued for great or small… 

Stand ten stories tall, 

With a firm footing in righteousness! 

After all; you were given life 

To give the true values to all 

Deny positive living and time will reveal 

That you shall surely fall!   

© Gavin Baird

Top Mishaps of the millenium

Insurance Company tells end customer that she will have to pay the damages in accident if she contests the police findings and loses. LIAR LIAR!

Man buys wrecked car. Man fixes it and gives it nice paint job and says good buy - never hit. Man sells it for big dollars and laughs at the sucker with the lemon.

Man riding bike get run down by pretty lady in SUV. Man get taken to hospital. Man sent home after days and broken leg. Then live on ZROD man calls to say pretty lady never call him back. Police don't return his calls.

That's the top three mishaps that I have seen. I will keep you posted as more come along.

It's sad that I have to write about these types of events but I think it is important for people to understand that living in the Caribbean is like living anywhere else. We have a beautiful natural environment to live in but our surroundings are filled with monsters who at any time step to destroy us.

We have junkies, homeless adults and children, statutory rape, unsolved murders just to mention a few.

Of course, we have life so that means we have hope. That hope is built by faith which is extended through God.

HOT HOT HOT

Hot mess!
Hot Gal!
Hot Wuk!
Hotness!
I'm hot just like you love me!
Feeling Hot Hot Hot!
You're Hot!
Don't you wish your girlfriend was HOT like me?

What is our obsession with the word HOT? I have used all of the above phrases as part of conversation or in singing one of the popular tunes on the radio.

If someone tries too hard or they're just not cutting it, he's a HOT MESS!

If a girl is well dressed with her hair well done and properly accessorized - she a HOT GAL and we'll her YOU'RE HOT!

HOT WUK took the Caribbean by storm with a fast paced tune and a dance to match the intensity! Big Up to Mr. Vegas for that one.

Arrow, we still love FEELING HOT HOT HOT! Getting ready to wine all now.

I"M HOT JUST LIKE YOU LOVE ME is a nice way to say I'm ready baby. Marvin Gaye knew what he was saying - still love his music.

You can wish your girlfriend was HOT LIKE ME but she's not. She has her own HOTNESS which makes her a HOT GAL - like me. You're a HOT MESS to even be bothering me. I've got my sweetheart already and he's HOT!

Who's HOT? I'm HOT! You're HOT! Feel HOT! Get a fan for all this HOTNESS.

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Contestant #1 forMiss Blogger title

Many people are scared to run in a pageant. Some take pleasure in poking fun at girls who are underdogs in shows.

If you don't have the courage nor commitment to compete, you should not laugh. You should encourage. I can speak about this because I competed in a pageant before and I confirm that it is not for me. I prefer to assist in the organization of the pageant and also with helping the girls with their personal development.

We can all look pretty and compete for Miss Photogenic, but what about intellect? As a representative for a pageant, a person must present themselves professionally and elegantly with proper dress and speech.

I am not saying that I am always proper - words slip from time to time when the 'cool' is lost. I love my slippers and walk the town in them. I've tried really hard with the ballet slippers but they just keep my feet hot. I know when to turn on the elegance though.

So I say to all the hopefuls - good luck and RUN to toastmasters if you are uncomfortable with public speaking. Dress appropriately at all times because a photo op can happen at any moment.

World Poetry Day

Today is WORLD POETRY DAY!

Celebrate with all poets today and encourage them to keep crafting their talents.

Writing poetry is easy when you let the inspiration flow. When asked to write on specific topics, you have to brainstorm and craft according to the specific issue. It is still not hard for me - once my heart is in it and I have enough time to write and re-write.

Our poetry readings are themed and some poets do not like that at all. I like the themes but encourage poets to share what they wish. They may come with something fresh and new. We never want to stifle creativity. Themes are set as a guide and a way to push the poets to keep writing.

Past themes include:
Black Love
Honoring the Elders

They are simple and a little abstract, but you may be suprised at the detailed creativity that stems from simple themes. The poets and singers who attend the readings really work hard and get the message across.

To get more of a taste, you'll have to attend one of our 'open mic' sessions held every thrid Saturday of the month. Keep checking this blog for updates.

I am an aspiring writer so stay tuned for more articles.

Who is Ordinary?

Who is ordinary?

Are you? Am I?
We're just ordinary people.

Last time I checked, ordinary was normal.

Dictionary.com states as the #1 definition for ordinary:

'of no special quality or interest; commonplace; unexceptional: One novel is brilliant, the other is decidedly ordinary; an ordinary person.'

If I look at that definition, in no way would I ever say that I am ordinary or normal. I would never say that you are ordinary either. Ordinary should not be used to describe people. It should be used for objects - never a person.

We are all unique, extraordinary with special qualities and of intense interest. Although, we like to fit molds and emmulate the TV stars, we each still have our special way about us.

So ordinary, I wil never be. I emmulate positive people and look to them as role models with the hope that one day I will be a role model too.

My goal for life - never ordinary - strive to be extraordinary.

Man Terrible; Woman Bad - in dialect

Man Terrible

and
Woman Bad...words from Nick Daddy Friday & the Awesome Jam Band (in dialect)

I can't say that I don't agree.

My thoughts:  

• Women are bad drivers and men are terrible. Women scratch fenders and bumpers. Men write-off and flip.
• Men call us B's and H's. Women call them AHoles and Punks.
• Women cry when their man cheats. Man kills when his women cheat (no dialect there)
• Men lie and get catch and tell more lies. Women lie and .... don't get catch.
• Men are gay in the closet. Women are happy all the time...whether with a man or a woman.

So who's really the worst?

Does it matter?

We all have our bad days and our bad ways. We just have to make it work and deal with each other.

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No Children Allowed?

'NO children are allowed.' 'Please, do not bring your children'. 'Your children will disturb the event.'

Women in organizations that deal with women's issues say the above.

Is there something wrong here? The women who make these satements are the first to want to embrace or coo at people's children. Yet, they are the first to ask that children are left with a sitter. I'll tell you this, I will never participate ever again in any event that restricts the attendance of my children.

My children are my support and my inspiration. How can I speak about being a mother and deliver a good performance without having my children present. I work with pageants, poetry readings and other activities and my kids are there 100%. I am not stripping or working in a casino - I am trying to make positive things happen in the community.

I don't want to say that it's life in the BVI but it is. We celebrate women but ask that their children are hushed away and hidden. It encourages the nonsense in which parents leave their children all over the place and party and run wild. Then at festival, the same women will be on air complaining about parents who leave their children unattended.

My children will be will ME and attend functions with ME. If you cannot accept them, then don't call ME.

Insurance or assurance of higher premiums

Insurance means:

1. the act, system, or business of insuring property, life, one's person, etc., against loss or harm arising in specified contingencies, as fire, accident, death, disablement, or the like, in consideration of a payment proportionate to the risk involved.
2. coverage by contract in which one party agrees to indemnify or reimburse another for loss that occurs under the terms of the contract.
3. the contract itself, set forth in a written or printed agreement or policy.
4. the amount for which anything is insured.
5. an insurance premium.
6. any means of guaranteeing against loss or harm
from Dictionary.com


Looking at that definition, why do we hate the insurance guys? They collect their premiums faithfully and raise them every year. On the other hand, you may hardly make claims and remain a good customer.

So what is the problem? Health insurance is CRAZY here in the BVI. If you are not in a big group, you are in trouble because individual premiums are expensive, especially with a family. With Auto Insurance, you can get good rates but there are certain companies who work tirelessly to screw you over. They dig in to your business and have conversations about you with the 'world' - and you are insured with them! the Life Insurance guys can get away for now but they also need to research new policies to offer us here.

I obviously do not care for the auto guys because on two occassions, I have had bad interactions with them. Nevertheless, we need them. I ask people to review their policies closely and if you are not happy - SWITCH. They like to tell you that you cannot have comprehensive insurance on vehicles over three years, yet they lie because they can offer it.

Maybe it is a vendetta against me - no because everyone complains.

So, switch, switch, switch...........

Callaloo Poets & VIIA honor the elders on March 15, 2008

Callaloo Poets & VIIA honor the elders on Saturday, March 15, 2008 at Mellow Moods

Greetings,

The Callaloo Poets and the Virgin Islands Improvement Association will pay tribute to the elders on March 15, 2008 at 7:00PM at Mellow Moods, Road Town, Tortola in an 'open mic' poetry reading themed 'Honoring Our Elders'.

Poets, singers, drummers, musicians and dancers are asked to be at Mellow Moods by 6:45PM for sign-up.

Also note that we are featured on the updated CORE Magazine website, www.coremagazine.vi. For more information about us, visit http://www.myspace.com/vicallaloo or http://www.youtube.com/vicallaloo.

Thanks as always for your support.

Callaloo Poets

Driving in the BVI

The old people say "drive for you and the other driver". I say drive for you and the other moron here in the BVI cause guaranteed by the end of the year someone will hit your car. Hopefully everyone will walk away without injury.

Seriously, SOME people here are really BAD drivers:

can't park
can't reverse
can't signal
can't brake
can't stay on their side of the road
can't overtake

BTW, the percentage of bad drivers is the same for male and female. The joke is that everyone wants BIG SUV's but they can't park and can't change the tires. lol lol These SUV's don't even want to drive in mud puddles. I just sit and laugh or pass or just laugh.

There may actually be one vehicle per adult and per child here - it's about 25,000 vehicles to 27,000 people. With no proper bus system, the traffic is horrendous and with the factors listed above - we're not getting anywhere.

The Government employees and officials spend our country's income on BIGGER SUVs which is such a waste. The $50K wasted on an Escalade could be a teacher's salary or a scholarship for a hopeful dentist. Yet they say they are moving forward - making the dealers rich and the school children slower because there is no equipment or qualified teacher to teach them.

The way forward - I would transfer the Escalades and Land Rovers to the Survey Department instead of having 8 men choked up in the 4 door truck. I think the pretty blue sea have the officials blinded somehow but these are just my thoughts.

Group Dynamics

I have been in great groups and have been in bad ones. From church groups to work to college to community organizations - it's just such a bother when you have one or two doing the work. It's been seldom that I have not had to push my weight plus in groups. These days, once it is worthwhile I try. I working on four projects with different groups right now and those are going well. The groups are small and everyone works full time and has family to take of.

Well actually, one of them is not going so well - the people want the finished project but noone wants to have to do anything - reply to an email, answer a questions. I am about to leave them all high and dry but as some of the other leading people have said - it's hard to start something and then leave it. It's even harded when it's a good movement which can do positive things and effect change in the community.

I really don't mind doing it because these groups fill lapses in my life and I love media relations ad writing so I'm always out there pounding the pavement, making connections and getting things done. I guess I can say that the groups have very centered and talented people. We all just use our talents to do our part.

If you are in a group - I know it can be frustrating but just suck it up and do what needs to be done or leave 'um high and dry!

Education in the BVI

I did not add a blog yesterday but will try to make up for it today. A college student here is complaining about the college. I understand his plight. I had similar concerns 14 years ago. I have grown since then and realize that the problem does not lie only with the college but the secondary schools and the department responsible for education and still to some parents. 

Here are what I feel some of the issues are - some solvable and some you just can't change: 

1. Young/Old Parents: If your parents dropped out of high school - they may not be able to help you with work. You have to pay attention and take notes. Ask the teacher 100 times if you do not understand. Older parents may not remember the work and can offer no help. Same solution on paying attention etc. 
2. Learning Disabilities: Some kids are dyslexic, color blind, near sighted, deaf etc. Parents and teachers have to work together to curb this problems by getting help. Who is our resource person here to assist in these situations? 
3. Introducing Better Study Habits: I think that is self-explanatory. You cannot study for math - you can learn your formula but you have to practice your problems and equations to ensure that you know how to solve the problems. To do better in English, you have to practice writing and experiment with the literary techniques. If you have a bad memory - create acronyms for history and science classes to help you remember. 
4. Motivate the teachers: We have some good teachers in our education system and we also have some that need to retire and some who need a big stick! If they have a 'don't care' attitude, then the students will follow suit. The education officials need to keep the teachers safe, well paid and motivated so that they can mold the young minds.
5. Build morale among students: Morale is down. Students frown and sit in the classroom counting the time to leave. They need tough love or something because they head to college or to the workforce with BAD ATTITUDES. I think that they are babied and pampered too much at home and expect that treatment wherever they go. We need to toughen them up and teach them the responsibilities of life. 
6. Teenage Pregnancy: This has been happening forever. It is nothing new and some young person will get caught in this mess. All is not lost though. The alternative education classes provide opportunities for men and women to continue their education and get their high school diploma. Of course, we do not want our students to think of this as an easy way because it all falls back to babying them. 
7. Technology: As the 2000's add up, the generations change. The children are smarter but are so hi-tech that they forget about everything else. They sit and play on cell phones and IPODS and forget about prayer, school work, dishes, laundry and everything else - and that's morning, noon and night. Parents need to limit the use of these devices. Schools have already banned many of them yet students persist in disobeying authority.
8. Lack of Respect: "Good Morning" went out the door. These days, you cannot even tell them fix their clothes and they want to go under your clothes. Stricter punishment seems to be needed to make them respect the persons who have made, are making and who will continue to fight for them. 
9. Need for a 6th form: All that being said, I see the need for a 6th form to give our young people more time to mature before heading to college or the work force. In the 6th form, more college prep and career classes can be taught to get students ready for the REAL life.

Road Rage

It's not too often that I get Road Rage - but I had some tonight. Some fool in a white Mitsubishi Lancer (the old station wagon kind) pulled up in front of me and blocked me in. I blew my horn and he ignored me. So I blew it again and the man put on his left indicator - like why is she blowig her horn. I am a driver and I got out.

I don't usually indulge in driver banter but i stopped next to him and said I was just trying to get him to move. Typical reply - you can't drive. Well, I won't repeat what I said but let's just call it - classic ROAD RAGE. Poor moron got 'cussed' for every bad thing that happened last week.

I'm not saying that I was right but hey - better I yelled than rammed his car!

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Top 7 @ & Awards in BVI

Congratulations to ALL the winners of the ZROD Top 7 @ 7 Awards. Matter of Fact - congratulations to all of you with the courage to come out and share your music with the world. I would to see and hear more from all of the groups because the talent is uniquely BVI.

What I will ask of all of the groups is that they keep their diction a little clearer because I want to see you make it worldwide not just in BVI. You all also have to work on the productions and get some original beats or the necessary permissions.

All the groups clearly love what they do - perform. I think the community is also very much behind them and you know I'll do my part.

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New to the Blogger

Greetings,

I am new to Blogger.com and would like to thank them for this service. I'll be posting information on culture, history, Caribbean life and events.

Be sure to check back for some interesting stories!

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