Women - Mothers ?

Many young women look at other women who are mothers and say: ‘I would not have my children attending daycare.’ ‘I would never breastfeed my child in public.’ ‘I would never have a tummy after having my baby because I would be in the gym right after the baby pops out.’ ‘I would not have children out of wedlock.’ ‘I am perfect.’ PLEASE! No one is perfect and life is not perfect. You may have your perfect life planned out and who cares? ‘I love my tummy.’ 

‘I loved breastfeeding with a blanket in public.’ ‘I love my children and their father.’ ‘I love being me – imperfect and flawed.’ So to those of you who wish to have that ‘perfect’ life, plan ahead to the fullest and get that perfect partner and perfect job and of course your big mansion on the hill.

Just as our normal parents survived, so we shall survive. I don’t mean to down on people with aspirations and goals because I have goals too. My goals are not to be rich though or to have prestige or to live a bourgeois lifestyle. I just was simple happiness and minimal stress. I hate to be bothered with things...cars, tenants etc. You may think that I am crazy for not wanting the lavish lifestyle of the rich and famous but that’s not for me. Give me some grants – let me help to educate people and make people feel appreciated. So to the ladies who are ‘perfect’, buzz off!

No Children Allowed?

'NO children are allowed.' 'Please, do not bring your children'. 'Your children will disturb the event.'

Women in organizations that deal with women's issues say the above.

Is there something wrong here? The women who make these satements are the first to want to embrace or coo at people's children. Yet, they are the first to ask that children are left with a sitter. I'll tell you this, I will never participate ever again in any event that restricts the attendance of my children.

My children are my support and my inspiration. How can I speak about being a mother and deliver a good performance without having my children present. I work with pageants, poetry readings and other activities and my kids are there 100%. I am not stripping or working in a casino - I am trying to make positive things happen in the community.

I don't want to say that it's life in the BVI but it is. We celebrate women but ask that their children are hushed away and hidden. It encourages the nonsense in which parents leave their children all over the place and party and run wild. Then at festival, the same women will be on air complaining about parents who leave their children unattended.

My children will be will ME and attend functions with ME. If you cannot accept them, then don't call ME.