Parents
should be sure to discuss life issues with their teenaged daughters so that the
girls are informed about sex, periods, self-esteem and giving back.
Today it is very
important for parents to communicate with children, especially teenaged
daughters. The days of giving partial advice to teens is now long gone as the
internet provides both good and bad sources of information, so parents have to
speak openly to their children. Parents should tell their teenaged girls about menstruation,
sex, self-esteem and community service as this helps the girls to be stronger
women.
What Teen Girls Should
Know About Menstruation
Young ladies usually have their first
period between the ages of 9 and 16 with the average age being 12 years old.
Every woman menstruates differently as some have cramps, swollen glands, nausea,
heavy or light bleeding and some have no additional symptoms at all. Parents
should educate their daughters about the reasons for menstruation so that the
young ladies can learn and understand their cycle. This will help the girls to
be prepared and avoid forgetting their pads or tampons or worse, any embarrassing
moments.
Tell Girls the Full
Facts About Sex
In the past, parents
in the Caribbean have said to their daughters, "don't go and talk to boys
because you will get pregnant". Today, parents can no longer speak to children
like that. Teenaged girls, most of whom would have already have had their first
period, need to be told about sex so that they make the right choices. While
sex is not a delicate topic to discuss, there are many references parents can
reach for today. There are many books and there are articles such as WedMD's
"Talking With Children About Sex – Topic Overview"
that parents can peruse for information. Parents must note that it is not as
simple as giving the child the book to read and hoping that understanding will
come. Both mother and father must take time and make themselves available to
answer questions. Contraceptives of course should be discussed - not as
an encouragement to seek sex but a precaution.
Building a Teen
Daughter's Self-Esteem
Self-esteem speaks
to the core of a person's being with the value of self-worth and also with a
focus of self-improvement and growth. Both boys and girls experience
difficulties with their self-image but parents play a large role in easing the
difficulties and ensuring that teenagers are well balanced and self-confident.
Issues with physical appearance, involvement in sports or academic achievement
can bring a young person down. Dyan Eybergen offers encouraging words in her
Suite 101 article "The Development of Self-Esteem: Parenting Behaviours
That Boost a Child's Self Worth" that "Children who receive support
are strengthened; those who are empowered feel encouraged; children who know unconditional
love learn to love themselves and when children know that their parents have
faith in them, they are fulfilled as a human beings." Involvement in
church activities, pageants, sports, writing songs and poetry are great
activities for young ladies to develop and continuously improve their self-esteem
Community Service
is Important for Girls
It is important for
parents to instill in their young daughters the importance of volunteering and
community service. Giving back to the community builds character, allows for
networking and provides enhancement to a job application. Young ladies can take
part in school or church based organizations or other groups such as Girl
Guides, Pathfinders or other groups. Hopefully open communication between
parents and teenaged girls will foster strong relationships between them.
Young
girls need to be nurtured so that they can be strong young women. When parents
communicate with their teenaged daughters about sexual health, self-esteem and
community service, the young women will be better equipped to deal with life.