Ever Get Thrown "Under the Bus"?

2011 has started off as my getting "thrown under the bus" year. Everywhere I turn, it seems like people are trying to set me up to look stupid. Fortunately for me, I keep stepping and rising. No matter what you do in your family, organization or in life in general, there will always seem to be someone or some persons who are out to get you.

But are they really trying to get you? Is it all in your mind? Somethings, difficult situations occur and we want to blame others for our failures and misfortunes. Things will never go perfectly in life. I always say that anything that is too perfect usually has too many flaws.

Whether they are trying to get you or if you are just paranoid or insecure about your various relationships, you can't let other people hold you back. Get your "Shine" on! You can shine quietly and reap the rewards of your achievements or you can share your accomplishments with those who around you so that you can inspire them.

There are days when that sinking feeling will come and someone was really trying to get you - to make you look bad. I've had one of those days recentlly and I realized the other persons involved just can not accept change. They may not be intimidated but they only see things from one spectrum. I was "under the bus" but the key persons in the end still worked with me because they knew that I did try my best.

If you are "under the bus", don't stay there! Get up and out and show everyone that no matter the size of the missile sent your way, you are destined for greatness and you will "shine"!

Stepping Towards Your Educational Goals - Think SWOT

We all need to celebrate each other's accomplishments. I am proud of co-worker Theodore James, who was able to achieve his BS. Kudos to TJ!

As I think about my days at the BVI Community College, now the HL Stoutt Community College, UVI and then at Cornell University, I see my growth and progress towards adulthood. My Facebook status today is "I'm executing a master plan" and the steps I took towards attaining my higher education have taken me this far and I know that while God grants me life, his overall plan may take me further.

Education is important whether you aim for a certification in your trade or a Masters or Bachelors Degree. However, you have to chart your plan while looking at your strengths, weaknesses, likes and dislikes. Everyone wants to be successful so while we want to live on the edge and have fun all day, we still need to take careful consideration when making decisions that will affect our lives in the future.

And YES, you should look at yourself through the lens of a SWOT! When I entered UVI in 1995, my Strengths were my math skills, being friendly and diligent. My Weaknesses were my not-so-good english skills and lack of guidance. The Opportunities were everywhere because UVI offered good professors, diverse students, various organizations and a sound curriculum. The biggest Threat was fear of failure.

Whether you are aiming to be an attorney, a mechanic, a hair-stylist or a nanny, get your papers - degree or certification and stay abreast of changes/updates in your profession. Don't let the unseen threats hold you back because you will only live in regret if you do try!

ribbon

POEM: Bottled Up

Is my love locked down?
cause if it is
please lock me up
for holding back love
cause lusting won't get you anywhere
expressing your feelings will
even when you get turned down
cause turned down is still
better than locked down
locked up feelings
suppressed in a
heart-shaped bottle

I started this poem a long time ago and only God knows if I did finish it. I do like its length and simplicity so it will stay as is.

COPYRIGHT RIBBON 2011

Saying NO When It Needs To Be Said

Humans seem to want to always please each other. However, there are days when we need to say "no" to a request. This must happen at home, on the job, in the church and just in life in general.

Don't be a patsy or pushover
If you are headed to Sea Cows Bay from Road Town at 1:00pm for a 1:30pm appointment, should you agree to take someone to East End? You can offer to find them a taxi but you really can't be in two places at one time.

What about those situations on the job where you know that your co-workers like to set you up to do the grunge work? You can offer assistance but you must say "no" at some point or you will be labelled the office pushover who takes on everyone's task.

Get a spine!
I have had to say "no" on several occassions starting from last year. I am simply tired of being taken for granted. of course on the job, you have to weigh decisions out wisely. Sometimes a conversation with a supervisor can help when you see everyone pulling at you for help. When you are a new employee, they try to orient you to become their slave in some organizations. Sometimes, supervisors are guilty of this because they just want someone to make them look good.

It is very sad to know that coworkers just want to know your strengths so that they can in some cases make you weak. If you find yourself handling personal errands daily, you may want to address this. "Any other duties as assigned" still mean duties that relate specifically to the job or organization. Of course, in a lot of cases, the more you assist in other units, the more well-rounded you can become. The setback to that is when you work in an organization rife with corruption and nepotism, you will see others rising and rewarded and there is no recognition for you. For me, that's when it's time to speak with the supervisor and management about opportunities for you to be promoted or have your pay increased.

You must tell them YES but they tell you NO
If you feel that your needs, work and accomplishments are being ignored, it's time to find another job. Don't stay in an organization where you are unhappy or uncomfortable. Work towards getting situations resolved, but if the effort is futile, it's time to move on.

You can still stay "yes" when others ask for help but do not overdraw on your personal time and energy if you know you are not able to or if you are busy. So when your sister calls two minutes for her date asking for you to babysit and you have plans to study, kindly ask her if she can ask someone else to help or let her bring the children later in the evening when they are already sleeping.

Many of us have to learn to balance our time and fulfil our personal duties as well as getting adequate rest. You can't say "yes" to everyone and "no" to your health, family and professional obligations and to yourself!

What Makes You Shine?

Some people can only shine on a job where they can use the talents of others to make them look good. How is your personality? How do you interact with people? Are you an idea giver and an implementer or both? What are you strengths and weaknesses?

Answer these questions honestly and decide how best you can shine daily at your job, in your church and in the community. While I say 'shine', I do not mean overshadowing others or taking credit for what others do. If you are a shy person, I am not expecting you to host an event to give yourself high blood pressure.

Shine with a giving and loving heart. Shine in what you do best. Don't worry about others not seeing how meaningful your contribution is. Your contribution is positive, important and appreciated. Today, many of us face tough situations in the workplace. There's always the co-worker who gives orders but never lifts a finger. There's always someone who never understands anything. There's always the person who gets the promotions and does poor work.

I shine through my personality, my talents and my abilities. There is no one position, organization or another person that can determine how I shine bcause I shine all the time. Wherever the road of life leads you, you are supposed to shine all the time. It may seem cliche but it is the truth. You have to define yourself as a person.

What do you want your eulogy to read? Everyone wants to shine - be brilliant - illuminate - radiate. So let' do it! Set your SMART goals and aim for better. Situations and conflict will always arise but try your best to SHINE!


Ribbon's words for today:

If you have to rely on one or two persons to shine, you may get dusty, rusted and busted. Thank God many of us can think on our feet, see opportunity and make the best of bad situations. Keep moving forward!

The University of the Virgin Islands (UVI) in the Virgin Islands

UVI is my alma mater!

The University of the Virgin Islands is a four-year university that offers diverse programs and is located on two campuses in the US Virgin Islands.

The University of the Virgin Islands (UVI) (http://www.uvi.edu) is located on two campuses in St. Thomas and St. Croix in the United States Virgin Islands (USVI). Both campuses offer programs for students interested in pursuing Associate, Bachelor and Master Degrees. This university's tagline is

"Historically American... Uniquely Caribbean... Globally Interactive..." People worldwide became more familiar with UVI after the St. Thomas campus was chosen for the locale of the fourth season of BET's College Hill program.

UVI is an American Institution in the Caribbean

The university "was chartered on March 16, 1962, as the College of the Virgin Islands - a publicly   funded, coeducational, liberal arts institution - by Act No. 862 of the Fourth Legislature of the U.S. Virgin Islands." The St. Thomas campus opened for classes in 1963 and in 1964, the St. Croix campus was founded. In 1986, the institution was officially renamed the University of the Virgin Islands, as it is called today. UVI is accredited by the Commission on Higher Education of the Middle States Association of Colleges & Schools.

The University of the Virgin Islands is a Historically Black College and University

UVI is also listed as a Historically Black College and University (HBCU). According to US Department of Education via The Higher Education Act of 1965, as amended, the definition of HBCU is "...any historically black college or university that was established prior to 1964, whose principal mission was, and is, the education of black Americans...."

Student Life at the University of the Virgin Islands

The University of the Virgin Islands serves students from the US and British Virgin Islands, St. Kitts & Nevis, St. Martin/St. Marteen, Dominica and other Caribbean islands as well as the USA and other countries. Between the two campuses, UVI has over 2,500 students. Both islands have on-campus student housing, libraries and computer labs.

Students who are first-time visitors to the US Virgin Islands should take advantage of living in the territory while studying. St. Thomas and St. Croix have rich history and culture and offer annual carnival celebrations, diverse religious activities, great shopping and pristine beaches. It is also affordable to travel to the other US Virgin - St. John and the neighboring British Virgin Islands.

UVI Provides a Strong Academic Program

Students who have a keen interest in studying Business, Education, Humanities and Social Sciences, Nursing, and Science and Mathematics will do well at UVI. The previously named fields of study comprise UVI's five academic divisions or schools. Undergraduate and graduate degrees are available to students in these different schools.

Students in the Virgin Islands, Caribbean, USA or anywhere in the world attend the University of the Virgin Islands because it is an American institution that offers attractive programs and student activities. Nestled in the US Virgins of St. Thomas and St. Croix, UVI offers a great experience for students.

Requirements for Getting Married in the British Virgin Islands

If you are planning to get married in the British Virgin Islands, you should know about the fees, the rules and the time frame for planning the ceremony.

Do you want to have your wedding in the British Virgin Islands (BVI)? Then you will need to know about requirements for obtaining a marriage license and for organizing your ceremony. There are two steps to the process. The first step is to make your application to the Attorney General's Chambers in the British Virgin Islands. The next step takes you to the Civil Registry and Passport Office (Civil Registry) to finalize the ceremony.

Basic Requirements for a Marriage License in the BVI

If you want to get married in the British Virgin Islands, your application for a marriage license must be submitted with proper identification, proof of a prior marriage and the applicable fees to the Attorney General's Chambers. The fiances must be present along with two witnesses of their choosing. All parties must be over eighteen years of age. Couple who are younger than eighteen years must have the  presence and consent of both parents. According to the brochure, "Getting Married in the Virgin Islands" from the Civil Registry and Passport Office, "a marriage license takes three working days to process" and "it remains valid for three months from the date it is signed" by the Governor.

Bigamy is a Crime in the BVI

Proof of a prior marriage is important because bigamy is a crime in the Virgin Islands. If any of the applicants was previously married, they should submit an original or certified copy of their Decree Absolute or a death certificate of the prior spouse.

Fiances Who Visit the BVI to Get Married

Persons who are visiting the BVI and are resident in the territory for less than fifteen days must apply for a Special License at a cost of US$110. The applicants must show their passports which will reflect the number of days that they have been in the BVI.

Normal Residents of the Virgin Islands Applying for a Marriage License

 Couples who normally live in the Virgin Islands apply for an Ordinary License at a cost of US$50 and this is also submitted with a postage stamp. Although you may live in the Virgin Islands for over fifteen days, please walk with your passport to show proof of residency.

Paying Fees for the Marriage License

According to the brochure "Requirements for Obtaining a Marriage License in the British Virgin Islands" produced by the Attorney General's Chambers, fees are paid via the purchase of postage stamps from the Post Office. As of 2010, the BVI Post is located Port Purcell.

Planning Your Marriage Ceremony in the BVI

Upon the application for the marriage license at the Attorney General's Chambers, contact the

Registrar-General's Office in Civil Registry and Passport Office in Road Town to set an appointment for the wedding date. More importantly, the couple needs to decide the location and type of wedding they wish to have. Two witnesses are also required and couples can select the persons listed on their marriage license or other persons.

Planning a Religious Wedding in the BVI

Couples should speak to their clergy, obtain the necessary counseling before applying for the license and have a date in mind for the wedding. Upon making the application for the marriage license, a letter from your recognized religious leader should be forwarded to the Civil Registry. When couples choose to have a religious wedding ceremony, they can hold the event in a church or another location of their choice. If they want to get married in a church, "Getting Married in the Virgin Islands" shares that wedding banns are then "published on three consecutive Saturdays or Sundays in that church." MSN Encarta Dictionary shares that banns are "an announcement of a forthcoming marriage, proclaimed in the church of the engaged couple on three successive Sundays."

Planning a Civil Wedding in the BVI

In a civil wedding ceremony, the Registrar-General or another appointed Marriage Officer performs the ceremony without any reference to religion. The vows are read, the license is signed and the marriage is solemnized.

• Fees for the Registrar General: The cost is US$35 for the Registrar-General to marry a couple in her office at the Civil Registry. A ceremony outside of the office costs US$100. For any ceremonies outside of Tortola, such as in Jost Van Dyke, Anegada, Peter Islands or the other islands, the Registrar-General's travel to that location has to be paid.
• Prayers Allowed After Civil Wedding: If the couple wishes for prayer, they set the prayers to come after the Registrar-General declares them married and after they have signed the official documents.

After the applications for the marriage license is applied for and approved, the couple confirm their wedding date and plan for the civil or religious ceremony of their choice. After all the processes are complete, the final product is the marriage certificate, which can be further authenticated by Apostille. This document is the proof that the marriage officially occurred in the British Virgin Islands.